10 Proposals for parents who considered taking their children to Nebraska to discard them

Twenty-three children were fired at hospitals in Nebraska because the state is a safe sanctuary law. The purpose of the law is to enable parents to bring their children to a "safe haven" to protect and care when they can not meet the needs of the child. Of the 23 children who have gone to hospitals in Nebraska so far, none has been younger than 6 years. Some were from other countries.

This highlights the need for families to have sufficient and appropriate services and support when they have difficulty with one or more children. The more frequent the problems of children, the more difficult and the more complex, the more likely the young people will get to the attention of the public agency. In times of severe budget cuts, agencies often do not have the resources needed to provide adequate services for young people and their families. From youth to family, youth service agencies become frustrated because they do not see changes that will help young people and families to be stable and lead prosocial lifestyles. What is the parent then?

1. Ask for help from counseling, school or minister.

2. Read books and articles and watch TV programs on how to help your child.

3. Boost the behavior that you want the child to do. You can be empowered by something the young man automatically received in the past (such as TV or time of the game), but now he has to earn by demonstrating certain behaviors, such as entering the house on time. Keep up your rules and do not let yourself be disturbed by the child for being deprived.

4. Set good boundaries and limits for children, giving them adequate love and care.

5. Enter your children into positive social activities, especially if you work long hours. Adult supervision is very important for the well-being of young people.

6. Be more positive than negative. Everyone needs to feel good, and as he corrects mistakes, find many ways to tell your child how well he works in another area, such as basketball or cleaning your room (well, maybe not). Some children behave because they have experienced trauma in the past or have an emotional problem. Take your young person to the mental health facility for evaluation to see what he needs.

7. Have children react negatively if parents in the household struggle or argue with each other. If this is the case, seek marriage or family counseling.

8. Some teenagers can react to parents who have their own difficulties with substance abuse, mental illness or criminal behavior. Family members, churches and communities can join to support that family member and encourage them to get help. If a family member does not change, then help the child. Community members must climb the plate and help each other when they can.

9. When you can not do it yourself, seek professional help yourself. Look at the phone book or ask someone you trust.

10. Know where your children are, what they do and who they are with. Talk to them about their activities, thoughts, hopes, fears and plans. Let them know that you care about what is happening in their lives. Turn off the TV for one hour and do something like a family.

Parenting is not easy. Most of us could use little help in raising our children. After all, "they did not come with instructions for use." Do not be afraid to ask. Someone had the same problem that you have with your child and will have some useful ideas. Sometimes it's a neighbor or a friend, but sometimes it's a professional. Do not wait for a big problem; Get help and support when the problem is small. It's much easier to manage then. Good luck; hold your beard up; You can do it.